6 Keys To A Successful Relationship

After a breakup, you often reflect on why your relationship failed. We go on to tell ourselves, “Well, it’s just fate” or “You know it just wasn’t meant to be,” trying to absolve ourselves of responsibility or, better yet, blaming the ex for all the problems. Hate to tell ya, but the truth is, the success of YOUR relationship is entirely within your control. So many of us get caught up in the game of relationship roulette. When you never had an example of positive relationships in the past. You hop in and out of relationships hoping for the best, but leaving the relationship’s success up to chance. To experience real, lasting love, you have to take control and make it the connection you want.

Always Be Playful

We all have encountered those couples who act more like brothers and sisters than lovers. The passion and desire that was once there is gone. You can tell couples like these are only together for the kids or because it’s cheaper to keep her. Rule one is, remain playful. Court your lady throughout the entire relationship, continue date nights, go on fun adventures, travel! Frequently when you speak to couples who are having relationship issues, it’s normally because they fell into a routine, and there’s no longer any spontaneity. They stop doing the little things that brought them together in the first place.

Don’t Compare Your Relationship

Comparing yourself to others is a dangerous game. Comparing your relationship to what you perceive Beckys from across the street has going on, is the perfect formula to a fucking disaster — and for some, it’s hard to prevent. Everyone always puts their best face forward. Comparing your life to what someone else’s looks like never ends well. You have to remember that you aren’t seeing behind the scenes; everyone has their own shit that they keep in the closet, no one is perfect. For all, you know, Becky from across the street could be a whore who gives reach arounds to all the dads on the PTA board, and her husband could be an abusive asshole that drinks too much. Also, never compare your current partner with any of your exes; as long as you are happy in YOUR relationship, no one else matters.

Let’s Talk About Sex

You often hear married couples say. “Well, we had sex more when we were dating”. A good sex life is soooo important in a successful relationship. Boost your woman’s self-esteem. Let her know she still looks like a snack whenever she pulls out the red dress. Tell her how much you can’t wait to be able to rip it off of her. She needs to know you still find her attractive, and help reduce those feelings of insecurity. The same goes for women. We get you had a long day at work, but don’t allow yourself to get in a routine of I’m tired, or maybe tomorrow and tomorrow never comes. Never shame your man for wanting you. Relationships work both ways. Having a burning desire and passion in the bedroom is a must.

Never Threaten The Relationship

While a little bit of uncertainty, in the beginning, might make a relationship exciting, but that’s not what we’re talking about here. I’m more so addressing when arguments turn into threats of one of you leaving, don’t make a threat on leaving unless you’re planning to go. A person who consistently threatens a breakup will never be happy no matter what you do. These behaviors create an imbalance of power. It’s basically like someone pressed the launch button to the rocketship of their relationship, it may not end today or tomorrow, but if your partner in anger threatens to leave, you can bet your ass one day it’s coming. Allow them to walk. You have to commit, if you’re going to be together, then be together. If not, then don’t. People make this shit way too complicated. Making threats of leaving puts both your and your partner’s focus on a potential breakup rather than working on a resolution to address the problem.

Appreciation

I mean, who doesn’t like to be appreciated and complimented for being wonderful, fantastic, or unique?! I know I like a good compliment every now and then. This goes back to taking each other for granted, complacency, and getting into that everyday routine. Make your person feel special! Again you should constantly be dating throughout this relationship, work doesn’t stop when you finally have that Facebook official title, To me, that’s when the work truly begins! Masculine Energy wants to be appreciated. Feminine Energy wants to be understood. Making a point to compliment your partner fulfills both of those needs.

Don’t Let Problems, Become Problems

Address problems in your relationship early, before they grow into issues. If you don’t address problems when they’re small, and manageable, they will grow and evolve into something harmful that then you can’t avoid.

In closing, strong relationships do not just happen. Rather, you have to build them with love, passion, understanding, and a whole bunch of other mushy shit that I failed to mention. So many people live in the past that they often self-sabotage their happiness. Focus each day on improving your relationship, and avoid dwelling on your fear that this current relationship could one day end just like your last, and you should be ok.